Wearing a sweater with a big bust!

So, having a large bust and wearing a lot of sweaters, one thing I have to look out for is how the front of the sweater hangs. So, this sweater, when it’s untied hangs out about 5 inches away from my body. It doesn’t have structure that pulls it back towards my body after it cascades over my bust. Yeah, it looks dumb. Luckily it’s cut in such a way that you can tie it in front (technically, you’re supposed to also be able to wrap it around your waist and button it in the back, not happening here) and bring it back closer to your body.

DSC_0312One thing I look for in sweaters, is some structure. Sometimes it’s a band in the back at the waist that just gives it some shape. Sometimes it’s heavier, drapier fabric so it hangs closer to my body below my bust. Sometimes it’s a button or zipper. One thing I stay away from is the waistband at the bottom of the sweater that a lot of cardigans have. They drape above the waistband and poof out a bit, so it gives more volume to your torso. And when you have a big bust, even if you have a tiny waist and flat stomach, there is the potential to look heavier than you are if the fabric hangs unflatteringly. DSC_0382


Nic and Zoe sweater here. Jjill indestructible skirt here. Jjill long sleeve shirt here and on sale!

And this is an example of wearing a similar color up top to balance out the shock of color of bare skin when wearing tall boots. Still too cold to go bare-legged here, so making do! Linking up with Shopping My Closet here!

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How to wear a graphic tee with a large bust!

So, this is one area that doesn’t affect all women, but those of us with a big bust know that a graphic tee just doesn’t wear the same. Namely, the words and images get distorted — a lot! I found the best t-shirts are ones that have no definite beginning to where you start reading. Also, choose a t-shirt where you don’t need to see the whole image to get the idea. Or you can get a tee that has the words up high so it sits on your shelf for easy reading. Since I often wear a “3rd piece” over the t-shirt I usually go with more abstract designs. DSC_0237



My Detroit Proud t-shirt. Jeans here and similar jacket here.

Linking up with Not Dressed As Lamb today here  for graphic tees! Fun!

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My Solution for Spring Legs

So, I find spring to be the hardest season to figure out what to wear. I like wearing skirts and dresses and now all of a sudden it’s too warm for tights but too cool for bare legs. Also, I find tights at this time of year look prudish and like nylons (gasp!). Plus, I feel like my legs are not quite ready for their warm weather debut at this point. I don’t know if it’s all in my head, but they just look so shocked to be bare. Like I’ve put a just-hatched baby chick out in the cold (not the cute, yellow, fuzzy one but the one where it’s still wet looking and it’s eyes are bulging– I know, great visual). It’s not like I tan but after a month or two of getting my legs out in the air they seem more adjusted and then I’m ok showing them in public. I know some people put on self-tanning lotion just to smooth out the look but that’s just not my style. I honestly think it’s just my perception and getting used to the idea. Anyhow, I’m not at the point of going completely bare yet and won’t be for probably two more months and I don’t want to wear pants every day until then. So, what to do?


I must confess, I didn’t come up with this idea but saw it on Orphan Black (excellent binging show!) on a character around my age (awesome kick-ass grandma). Tall boots with bare legs wearing a skirt! It looked fantastic on her! Now, she wore a fuller skirt but you could just see her knees and top of her calves. It looked great! Not frumpy. Honestly, it just looked like she just loved wearing her boots so much she didn’t want to put them away. I know many of you are sick of wearing boots after a long winter but I find them so practical and such a great way to make an outfit look contemporary and the wearer seem stylish. So, that’s my solution for spring legs.


These are the  things I learned if you’re a bit shy about it like I was:

1. Have a pattern in your skirt. That way the color difference between your boots, skin and clothing gets blurred.

2. Have a similar color on your top half as your skin tone so it looks like it’s totally planned and the skin doesn’t draw more attention to itself (example coming in a future blog post).

3. Perhaps have a flowy skirt that has some movement so it’s not a straight line delineating your clothing from your skin.

4. Then, hold your chin high and say to yourself “I am one foxy lady”!


White House Black Market knit turtleneck (old). JJill skirt (old).

I learned this by trial and error. I had a completely dark outfit on and dark boots and I have very white/pink skin and my block of bare skin was a beacon. Every place I walked into people’s eyes darted down to my knees, completely involuntarily. So, that’s what I figured would work for me. Anyone else wear boots this way? Any other tips?

Linking up with Visible Monday @ Notdeadyetstyle.com here. Great photos of other bloggers outfits!

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Spring jacket that fits a large bust

Hey everyone! If you have a large bust you know how hard it is to find a jacket that actually zips up and doesn’t look like a tent as it hangs on you. For most of my jackets, I don’t even pretend I will ever be zipping them up. The one time when a jacket has to zip up is when I need it for warmth, so fall/spring coats and of course winter coats, so I look for fabric that has some stretch and a strong zipper. If I can find a flattering shape (like this jacket where it slightly nips in in the middle then a bit of feminine flair) then that’s a plus too. This jacket is for spring with more of a windbreaker fabric but also with the cotton fabric under the arm for (I guess?) to keep cooler? Not sure. But, here in early April, with the snow falling all around me as I’m being photographed, I actually don’t need to be kept cooler! I also like this coat because it doesn’t have one of those silly belts of which I have no need!



This coat comes with a detachable hood but if you have a strong, sturdy back like me you might want to detach it instead of adding more volume.

IMG_5793Jacket from JcPenney and way on sale here

And this is the outfit I had underneath. My very trusty dress with a white jacket that does not need to be able to be zipped up.


JJill dress (old) but similar here

And because I always like to see the surroundings of bloggers photographs, here is where I was getting photographed.

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Dear hubby not knowing he’s being photographed and put on a blog!

This is on the western shores of Lake Huron in northern Michigan. Beautiful but cold beach. Great place for a relaxing, quiet get-away!


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Lightening up for spring

Hi everyone, after the last post on scarves I thought I’d do a post that shows the same outfit with and without a scarf. I think the look changes dramatically.

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Pants from Macy’s here. Jacket is old from Kohls. Lovely shoes (my most expensive, fear not) from Anyi Lu from last season.

Though the look with the scarf looks more dramatic and pulled together the outfit without the scarf really opens up the look and let’s it breathe. I would improve the scarf-less look though by adding a necklace, perhaps a long one, or at least longer than the neckline of the shirt, just to finish off the outfit. I wanted to lighten up my colors for spring so exchanged black for gray and lightened up with a white jacket. I also wanted to “spring up” the look with ankle pants that show a bit of ankle hinting at warmer weather on the horizon. The shoes are a navy blue and I wanted to add a pop of color but as I review these pictures I think a shoe that is more open on the top of my foot would go better with these ankle pants and look more springy and less heavy. People, please learn from my mistakes!

This outfit also shows the principal of the “column of color”. This is a flattering composition that has one vertical column of color going from the top to the bottom. In this case, it’s the gray color. A really nice look for us short girls because it gives the allusion of some height. The same principal could have been achieved with the jacket and t-shirt switching colors and the column of color would be on the outside edges of your body. Which look do you like best?

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Scarves and a big bust

Hey everyone! Today I want to talk about scarves. You know, the one single accessory every expert recommends adding to an outfit for instant panache. However, with a large bust scarves don’t work like they do for others. Many times I feel strangled by the scarf or it’s billowing up adding lots of volume already on top of lots of volume of a big bust or it’s perched on my shelf drowning me in fabric. And I love scarves. I love the colors and patterns and they do add instant panache to an outfit. Here are three different scarves with the same outfit so you can see what works best for my body and outfit and perhaps for yours.

The first scarf is a thin, silky,  infinity scarf that I knotted so it wouldn’t lasso a boob and the knot weighs it down and pulls it away from my chin. This way it shows some neck and some of the neckline of my dress.

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This second scarf is another infinity scarf with lots of fabric. I love the pattern and I think the size of it fits my body size. However, I don’t wear it often unless it’s cold outside because I really do drown in it and it sits up high on my shelf.


Gosh, I’m a glutton for punishment. I love this scarf and love the color and pattern and how the bright color shocks an outfit. It’s not an infinity scarf, rather a long rectangular traditional scarf. I’ve tried many ways of knotting it to get it down and away from my face so there looks like there is a gap between my chin and my bust though it still adds volume.

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So, for me, adding a scarf is a trade-off. Yes, you do add color and pattern to an outfit and it can really pull an outfit together. And, yes, you do add volume to an already voluminous torso. Sometimes that matters and sometimes it doesn’t, so just keep it in mind and recognize that this is one of those exceptions to the rule for us exceptional big-busted women!

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Add some spring color!

Though it says its spring, here in Michigan it is very drab with just the grass starting to green up. I thought I would brighten things up with some bright colors. I wore this skirt a ton last fall because it is the color of the grass right before it turns gray and is covered in snow. It is always a very different green because it’s set agains the drying weeds and falling leaves and lots of browns — very different than spring green grass.






Jacket (old) from Dress Barn. Skirt here and on sale! Shirt (old) from Loft. Jewelry (old) from White House Black Market.

So, one of the reasons I started this blog is to address how the fashion “rules” are different for women with big busts. Though many of the rules (and with that I mean advice for the most flattering look) work for any size or shape there are definite considerations that women with big busts have to consider that women with smaller busts do not have to contend with. Also, the apple shape (no defined waist, carries weight in the center of the body) is a hard shape to dress. I have both of those and I had to learn how to make clothing work for me after a 20 year hiatus from the working world (aka stay-at-home mom who wears sweatshirts and jeans). I am a designer by trade and took this on as a project. I plan to share with you all that I have learned and continue to learn so that fashion empowers you rather than intimidates you. I want you to get the confidence boost a nice looking outfit can give you. I didn’t understand that little “spring in your step” that an outfit can give you until I figured out my body at this age, fashion/style at this point, what looks good on me and what style fits my personality. So, continue to stay tuned as I unravel all of this knowledge and coach you to find your most beautiful, confident you!

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Goodbye winter!

The snow is melting here in Michigan so we can take off the heavy sweaters and maybe (gasp) show some bare arm! Here is my outfit that still provides some warmth but is leaning towards spring.
Tunic for Apple Shapes - www.whenthegirlsrule.com

Tunic for Apple Shapes - www.whenthegirlsrule.com

Tunic for Apple Shapes - www.whenthegirlsrule.comTunic here and on sale! Sweater vest here and also on sale! Super soft, comforting leggings that hold up to much wear and tear here  and of course on sale. (Don’t you love how I buy full price and test it out so you can buy on sale?)

This tunic is nice because it’s a heavier ponte fabric so doesn’t cling and show every beautiful curve. The vest breaks up the whole front without adding too much warmth and the leggings are just the most acceptable way to wear pajama bottoms in public!

This is also an introduction to Skittles, one of the many photo-bombers I expect will be involved with the making of this blog!


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