Scarf Dilemma Re-Run!

[A Re-Run from last Spring! I’m cleaning the basement today instead — yay for me!]

Hey everyone! Today I want to talk about scarves. You know, the one single accessory every expert recommends adding to an outfit for instant panache. However, with a large bust scarves don’t work like they do for others. Many times I feel strangled by the scarf or it’s billowing up adding lots of volume already on top of lots of volume of a big bust or it’s perched on my shelf drowning me in fabric. And I love scarves. I love the colors and patterns and they do add instant panache to an outfit. Here are three different scarves with the same outfit so you can see what works best for my body and outfit and perhaps for yours.

The first scarf is a thin, silky,  infinity scarf that I knotted so it wouldn’t lasso a boob and the knot weighs it down and pulls it away from my chin. This way it shows some neck and some of the neckline of my dress.

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This second scarf is another infinity scarf with lots of fabric. I love the pattern and I think the size of it fits my body size. However, I don’t wear it often unless it’s cold outside because I really do drown in it and it sits up high on my shelf.

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Gosh, I’m a glutton for punishment. I love this scarf and love the color and pattern and how the bright color shocks an outfit. It’s not an infinity scarf, rather a long rectangular traditional scarf. I’ve tried many ways of knotting it to get it down and away from my face so there looks like there is a gap between my chin and my bust though it still adds volume.

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So, for me, adding a scarf is a trade-off. Yes, you do add color and pattern to an outfit and it can really pull an outfit together. And, yes, you do add volume to an already voluminous torso. Sometimes that matters and sometimes it doesn’t, so just keep it in mind and recognize that this is one of those exceptions to the rule for us exceptional big-busted women!

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Why I Haven’t Cut My Hair!

Hey everyone! So, you’ve probably noticed that my hair has gotten pretty long. It’s started reaching my shoulders and flipping up, something I hate. You may have also noticed that my posts have been shorter and I’ve been doing a couple of re-runs. You may even have noticed that all my photos lately have been at my house and photographed by my youngest daughter. You’re now saying to yourself: No I didn’t notice, but why should I care?

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Well, I haven’t had time to cut my hair or write longer posts or go anywhere interesting for the photographs because we are moving. No. Not the blog. Not my Instagram feed. Not my Facebook page. We’re moving in real life. My husband was offered a job too good to pass up in North Carolina. So, we are moving from Michigan to the south. It has taken us all by surprise!

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To make matters even more complicated, my husband is already down there (hence my new photographer!). So, I’m here trying to pack up a 10 acre farm by myself. Yes, my two daughters are helping, but they have very full lives of their own. Besides packing, I have to put my beloved house on the market. All of those little inconveniences you put up with have to be fixed. The paint has to be fresh. The house sparkling.

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So, this is just a long way of saying, I have to take a break from this blog for the next two weeks. I’ll be posting re-runs from when I started this blog and very few people were reading, so it will probably be new to you. I’ve been trying to keep up with the blog (hence the photos taken at my home), but we’re planning on putting the house on the market in less than two weeks and there is just so much that needs to be done.

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This is exciting but also very sad. We knew we would move when our daughters were out of the house, in maybe a few years or so, but this came very quickly and unexpectedly. As you can probably all imagine, this is emotionally, mentally and physically exhausting. There are lots of decisions that have to be made that are not easy decisions. We’ve lived in this house for 15 years and in Michigan for the last 20. We have several very old horses this will disrupt and have given away one already. We just adopted 4 barn kittens last fall (bringing our total to 8!) we have to consider. We’re leaving behind family and good friends and great neighbors.

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So, as I post these re-runs, remember that I’m cleaning a basement (yuck!), lugging heavy boxes (ugh!), painting every surface and mentally preparing to say goodbye to a very full life here while imagining a new future and send me your good vibes. I’ll be trying to answer your comments, because that is one of my favorite things to do each day (seriously!). Enjoy these photos of our little photo-bombers. The hazards of photographing on our little farm!

See you in two weeks!

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Trying Out Two LuLaRoe Items!

Hey everyone! I was contacted by Bronwyn Wright, who is a distributor for LuLaRoe, who asked me to review an outfit. Have you heard of them before? They are a clothing company that sells their products through individuals instead of through retail stores. This way women (and I believe it’s mostly women) can have some income while having flexibility to raise a family.

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I remember when I was younger, lots of my friends were selling Pampered Chef or Longaberger Baskets or toys or something else to try to bring in some income and still stay home with their children. These home-based businesses were a good option for many women then, so I’m happy to support them. This time, the product is clothing, something I can get behind!

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Anyway, Bronwyn contacted me and asked me if we could collaborate on an outfit which she sent to me at no cost in exchange for writing a review (100% my words and opinions. I’d have it no other way!). I had heard of LuLaRoe but hadn’t seen anything in person yet, so I was curious and said yes. She had me fill out a styling questionnaire and then sent me what she thought I would like.

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I love the skirt! It has a wide waistband that isn’t tight at all (I’m wearing XL) and doesn’t roll down. It’s a stretchy fabric, so even though it’s a pencil shape, my movement is not constrained in any way. The pattern is very pretty and the weight of the fabric is perfect for spring and summer, so I’ll be wearing it a lot!

Since I have such a large bust, t-shirts are one of the hardest items for me. They’re either too tight or too loose and to get them to fit my bust they have to have a lot of fabric. This shirt does have a lot of fabric, but it’s meant to be a flowy top. It definitely covers my midsection well and has the round neckline that I find to be the most flattering. And purple! I don’t wear a lot of purple, but I do think it’s a flattering color for me.

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Since there are many LuLaRoe distributors out there, I thought I’d ask Bronwyn about herself, and how she got into this business so we could get to know her so she’s not just an anonymous name on Instagram!

Why and when did you start selling Lula Roe? I started selling LuLaRoe after I had my first daughter, who was born 10 weeks early. I had finished my degree three weeks before she started trying to be born at 26 weeks. We spent a month on hospital bed rest 6 hours from home, and then 5 weeks in the NICU. I felt like I had lost a lot of my identity from concentrating on school and then focusing on her, so when LuLaRoe presented itself when she was 6 months old (and still not allowed out of the house because of fragile lungs) I jumped at the chance! I also live in a small town, and saw the need for shopping outlets. When the nearest shopping mall is 2 hours away… how could I say no to being that mall?!

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Why are the clothes different from just going to a retailer? Well, if you are buying clothes from me personally, you are literally putting food in my kids’ bellies. This isn’t supporting a giant company. LuLaRoe is growing, but since this is a low overhead clothing store, you are not paying for infrastructure, store fronts, or some franchise owner’s second home. You are paying for doctor’s appointments, retirement funds, and Cheerio’s. Another thing is that LuLaRoe only cuts 5,000 pieces in every pattern, and there are 70,000 consultants. That means that in a small town like the one I live in, you are not wearing the same pattern as 15 other people in town. Also, the prints span the ranges of every women’s preferences. I have seen pieces so ugly I could cry, but someone else finds it beautiful! So there is something for everyone, rather than being a specialized store for one style, age, or body type. I personally carry clothing for women who wear sizes 2T-3XL.

Why did you ask me to collaborate? I was looking up pictures of women on Instagram for a styling seminar I was doing for my team, about how to dress different women’s body shapes. I loved how confident and classy you looked, and couldn’t find any evidence of LuLaRoe on your page. I am all about empowering women of every color, shape, size, and age, and your Instagram handle also stuck out to me. Girls do, and will continue to, rule.

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What items would you recommend to women with apple shapes? The items I picked out for you were ones that were a similar shape to the ones I saw you wearing on your feed. The Perfect tee is my personal favorite, it is fitted around the bust, and flowy around the midsection. This works at camouflaging the area that almost anyone with more than one kid feels a little less than stellar about. The patterned Cassie skirt draws attention down to your legs also. I also thought about sending you a Julia dress sized up a size, and a Joy vest. The Julia is a fitted dress, but when you size up, it keeps it’s shape without clinging to everything. The Joy vest over it adds some visual interest. The Carly dress is another favorite, it is a very flowy t-shirt dress.

How would you suggest women order the correct size? I ask this since I told you my sizes but also my measurements since apple shapes usually don’t fit into the size categories very well. This is one of the challenges of online shopping, but one of the perks of LuLaRoe. I have dressed enough women that I can confidently recommend sizing based off of what sizes you normally wear, and your body type. LuLaRoe makes almost everything stretchy, so most people can go up or down in any style at any time, and be fine. There’s a little wiggle room. And the retailers are there to provide that customer support to give their best suggestion on how something will fit. (When is the last time you got to message Macy’s and ask them how much stretch a certain fabric had, or if something fits true to size).

Anything else you’d like my readers to know about you or the clothes? My name is Bronwyn. I’m a business major, mother of two, skatepark wife, and I am always looking for ways to make women feel more powerful and confident. Women who know their strength and what they’re capable of are world changers. LuLaRoe believes that also.

How can my readers contact you? My Facebook shopping group is here on Facebook and my Instagram is @LuLaRoeBronwynWright.

Thanks Bronwyn for the outfit and for this fun collaboration! Have a great weekend everyone!

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